Tips to Love Yourself

We are quickly approaching Valentine’s Day and possibly looking to do something special for loved ones, oftentimes neglecting ourselves. Please know it is perfectly right and necessary to take steps to love yourself.  Here are some tips you can begin to do to improve well-being:

1. Set the tone for your day

  1. Wind chime phone alarm sounds.
  2. Snooze.
  3. Scroll through Facebo–STOP.

We’re at the mercy of the external world when we launch into the day without plugging into ourselves first. Maybe we need to cancel a meeting or spend more time on our personal lives.

2. Take five minutes in the morning for meditation

Stop saying you’ll start meditating once you have a better handle on your schedule. Just taking five minutes in the morning benefits you all day.

3. Be honest with yourself—and listen to what you’re saying

Meditation creates a space for honesty in all its beautiful (and brutal) forms. That means we accept responsibility for our own decisions and how they aid and abet relationship issues and frustrations. “Stop saying yes when we want to say no, and quit running around doing things that don’t matter to us because we don’t feel complete.

4. Add a positive filter to friendships

Women are especially guilty of making jokes about how fat or how bad we look, but when we do that, we empower other women (or men) to do the same. On the other hand, articulating something we love about ourselves gives a friend permission to feel good too.

5. Slow your dinner roll

Are you eating what you want to eat or did someone throw down a deep-dish and make the choice for you? Give yourself the space to consider how to nourish and fuel your body, and you’ll leave the table feeling good about yourself.

6. Handle food frenemies strategically

Have a pal who always ropes you into splitting nachos and chocolate cake derailing your diet and sense of wellbeing in the process? You’re not alone: In a 2012 Stanford University study, 90% of women who started a weight loss journey did not feel supported by their friends when they tried eating healthfully.

If it isn’t possible to schedule an activity away from a dinner menu, prepare a set response to shut down any second-guessing. A simple “That’s right, I am not having the dessert again” may do the trick.

7. Choose mood-boosting foods

Feeling low on self-love may be solved with food science. Diets rich with Omega-3 fatty acids (like salmon, flaxseeds, and hemp) reduce inflammation in our brain and help improve our moods. Similarly, spinach, asparagus, and Brussels sprouts are bursting with folate, a nutrient linked to lower depression rates.

8. Repeat 100X: “Me time” is not a guilty pleasure

Just because work, friends, and family place large demands on us, carving out time for ourselves isn’t selfish: Ultimately, it’s an investment in those around us.